What Is Self Sabotage, and What To Do About It?
High performers set themselves apart not by the challenges they avoid, but by how they respond to unexpected adversity.
Take for example, procrastination. We’ve all caught ourselves slacking off before a major pitch or deadline, indulging in self sabotage when we’d feel better making progress.
It’s normal to judge ourselves harshly for procrastinating. Calling ourselves lazy or weak, beating ourselves up for slacking off.
Top performers don’t have time or energy to waste on self criticism. They’ve learned how to turn around their productivity efficiently.
Watch today’s video to learn how.
Even high performers can fall victim to self-sabotage.
Hi, I’m Kristin Jekielek, a Resilience Coach, and in today’s video we’re discussing self-sabotage: What it is and what to do about it.
Self-sabotage is when we take actions that seem to be sabotaging our future success. An example, if you have a big pitch coming up at work, and it’s really important for you to do really well on this, the rational thing would be for you to spend your time and energy preparing to ace this pitch.
Instead, you’re self-sabotaging by procrastinating.
The first thing to realize here is that, no, self-sabotage is not rational on the surface. Because we’re not working towards the goals that we’ve consciously set for ourselves, and yet we seem to struggle with changing our behaviors to be supportive of our future goals.
So what this means that there is something deeply irrational happening. We have some inner-drivers that we’re not aware of, some inner-drivers that we need to get reconnected to in order to reestablish behaviors that are going to support our future success.
So, my tip for you today: To overcome self-sabotage is to take a moment to pause. Whenever you notice yourself engaging in self-sabotaging behavior, it’s not time to judge yourself, or criticize yourself, or beat yourself up for procrastinating instead of
working on that pitch.
It’s really time to say, “Oh, self-sabotage is a message.”
It’s a message that there is an inner-driver that I need to understand so that I can move forward in a productive way. It’s time to realize that rational thought is not going to get us past our self-sabotaging behavior.
We’ve got to be willing to get open, and connect deeply with those inner-drivers that are causing us to procrastinate instead of being productive.
If you found this a useful tip, tell me why in the comments. I’ll see you next time.